One percent or less actually make financial independence. So that means 99% of the people are living in a delusion.
And if you ask them what are you they going to do if I gave them 10 million dollars, what would they do with their lives, I guarantee you that 2 to 8 million of that would be spend in less than a minute.
This is the answer to your questions.
Motivation is not a solution, it’s a symptom!
John Frederick Demartini
Well I think that the first step is to dissolve your own shames, and guilts, and reasons why you don’t deserve. Because a lot of people are sitting there beating themselves up. Anytime you set goals that are not aligned with your highest values and you then don’t achieve because you give up on them. Then you end up beating yourself up thinking there’s something wrong with you.
Well, first of all, you want to find out whatever you’ve done in your life. How it served you and how it served others. And clear out any shame and guilt.
Then you want to sit down and ask what is it that you’re going to do. Because you’re not going to get wealthy unless you’re serving people.
And if you’re not dedicated to serving people, you have a fantasy that you call “wealth.” You need to make sure that you really have a value on serving people, you need to have a value on wealth.
Because if you don’t have a value on wealth you’ll spend it.
If you have more of a value on spending it than saving it, investing it, it’s going to keep going out the window.
Because the money circulates in the economy from those who value the least to those who value it most over time.
So you have to value wealth building more than spending, you have to value serving people more than just taking.
You have to be able to be dedicated to something that’s really congruent with your values or you won’t stay with it.
You won’t build momentum and perseverance towards accomplishment. People who have a forced automatic saving in place and who are willing to consistently study and research. Because they value wealth building. Warren Buffet. By the time he was 11, he already read all the books in the Omaha Nebraska library on wealth building. By the age of 11.
He was committed to the outcome. People who are really committed to wealth building, they study it, they research it, they mentor under it, they apply it.
They have forced savings and investment structures in place.
They’re constantly trying to serve people and they want to build a business that lasts. What happens is every human being lives by a set of priorities and a set of values. Things that are most important to the least important in their life.
Whenever they set goals that are congruent and are in alignment with their highest values, they become the most powerful and effective people they can be.
This is when they are the most grateful, the most resilient.
This is when they are most disciplined and the most fulfilled in their life. Whenever they are living by lower values and trying to inject the values of others or minimize themselves and live by lower value systems, they procrastinate, hesitate, frustrate.
And they become you might say victims of their history, not masters of their destiny.
So you look at how people fill their space and you look at how they spend their time. You look at what they are disciplined about and focused on. Look at where they’re most organized. You look at where they spend the most money. You look at what energizes them the most. Look at what they think about, visualize, affirm and converse about with others most.
That is in line with what they’re creating in life. Look at what they’re inspired by. What their goals are.
And what they love learning.
If you look and find the common threads to those questions it will narrow down to what you’re dedicated to. And what you spontaneously can’t wait to get up in the morning and do.
Any individual that is setting goals and intentions that are congruent and in line with their highest values. They have the highest probability of being spontaneously inspired in the morning to get up and do it.
So if you have an entrepreneur that is working in a business and they found what is most meaningful to them. They have found the tap dance of work and energy that Warren Buffet describes.
Now in addition to that, an entrepreneur also has to find out what their target market’s highest values are. To make sure that they are providing a service that meets those specific needs.
So determining your own values and determining other people’s values that you want to serve. Is an essential component because you have to be able to find something that serves other people.
But it is also meaningful to you.
If you find those two, you’ve got your niche!
Now you have exactly what you would love to get up in the morning and do. And you get to go and do exactly what people want. And you get to fulfill their life.
Because everybody has a set of priorities. A set of values in their life. Whenever they’re living by their highest value, which the ancient greeks call the “telos.” Which is the highest priority in their life. The “chief aim” is what Napoleon Hill calls it.
Or Edd Helson calls it the “magnificent obsession,” or the “big why.”
That highest value is the most meaningful and purposeful thing they can do.
That is the purpose.
When you do, you’re most resilient. Most adaptable to pain and pleasure. When you go down the list of values, you’re less inspired, less fulfilled by doing them.
You procrastinate in doing them. And what happens is you only do them if it’s pleasureful. And if it’s not, you’ll give up. So the key is to make sure everything you do is highest priority. The thing that’s most meaningful to you so you don’t give up.
You have the resilience and you embrace pain and pleasure in pursuit of a great purpose.
If you are not living by your highest values. Because you want to do it with pleasure only and you want to give up if it’s pain. You’ll need motivation all the time.
The difference between inspiration, which is from within. Is people who are inspired from within are living at their highest values. And people who need motivation from without, are people who haven’t found that highest value and are living by lower values. So they need constant incentives, and motivation, and only pleasure to keep them going.
So our animal nature needs motivation. But our truest nature, our human nature. The one that activates the telencephalon in the brain. The executive centers in the brain. Which are the ones that allows you to be the executive and leader in the world—transcends this pain-pleasure amygdala reaction of the lower animal within us.
It allows us to function from an inner core mission that transcends.
And allows us to be able to embrace pain and pleasure. Support challenge, ease difficulties, any complementary pair of opposites that you face along the way.
You turn into on the way.
If you’re expecting to flow between two buildings, that’s unrealistic expectation.
Or if you’re expecting yourself doing something that’s truly not high on your values and not meaningful to you. You’ll tend to give up.
Or expecting some other human being to do something that doesn’t abide by the laws of the universe.
Or expecting them to live outside their values. Every human being makes decisions according to what will give them the greatest advantage over disadvantage.
The greatest reward over risk to their highest values.
So if you expect yourself to do something that is not really meaningful to you. It sounds like a neat whim, but it’s not really you. You’re going to end up self-defeating and end up with the a, b, c, d’s of negativity.
Internal anger and aggression; blame and feelings of betrayal; criticism and challenge. Internal despondency and depression. And these abcd’s of negativity that you internally have—which some people call negative self-talk and negative self-behavior—is actually a feedback mechanism to make sure we’re setting realistic expectations that are aligned with our real values.
And we know that it’s real if we can see it in our mind’s eye.
We see the strategy. We know the action steps. And it’s obtainable.
And those are the keys.
When you do, you have a realistic expectation, you keep showing effort and evidence of manifesting what you want to manifest.
The wisest thing to do is start with simple goals that you achieve. And train yourself to do what you say. If you train yourself to do what you say, your piggy banks become biggy banks.
Your little actions become big dreams.
And if you’ll live in congruency with your highest values, you have the highest probability of achievement. And you won’t give up on your goals.
So if you set goals that are congruent. That are really meaningful to you. And you are chunking them down into small enough bites. So you just keep doing things. And keep rewarding yourself by accomplishing immediate steps.
You’ll end up manifesting things because you just strategize yourself into the bigger game.
So I always say that if you chunk a project into small bites and then into everything that’s within a time horizon—and within your vision to see and do. You’ll get it! You just stay with it long enough.
If you stay perseverant toward an objective and exemplify action every day toward your objective, sooner or later everybody else kind of dies out. And you’re at the top.
You just got to stay with it.
Procrastination is the result of three primary things.
1) It’s an unclear vision.
2) It is an unchunked vision. It means you’re taking on too big a chunk without bringing it down to small enough bites so you can go and get it done.
3) And it’s not linked to your highest values.
If you take the objective that you have and you make sure it abides by the laws of the universe. That it’s doable. You make sure that it really matches your highest values. So it’s linked.
And the way you know that is if you can rattle off the reasons why you can do it and how it can help you fulfill your mission fluently. If you are fluent, you are congruent. Then you basically make sure that it’s chunked down into small action steps you can do. And you micromanage until you prove that you can micromanage.
That means you do it in small baby steps every single day.
You say, “If I do this, I’m one step closer. If I do this the next day, I am one step closer.”
Break it down into such small steps that it’s, “by the inch, it’s a cinch.”—John Frederick Demartini
If you do, you won’t procrastinate.
Procrastinate means you’ve unchunked it, unlinked it, and unclarified it.
I think that people who think that they’re going to be positive all the time are delusional.
Just like a magnet it has two sides. And you have two sides. The more you set up a fantasy that only has one side, then the more you get depressed when it doesn’t match your fantasy.
So I’m a realistic guy who sets real goals in real time. With a balanced orientation. And I accomplish more by doing that, than setting up fantasies and then having nightmares.
The real principle behind the law of attraction is not really metaphysical.
It is something I’d like to propose. If you are a woman and you are dedicated to children. And you have three beautiful children and you walk in a mall, you’re going to notice things related to children. You’re not going to notice business materials.
But if you’re an entrepreneur and you’re walking in a mall, you’re going to notice business things. You’re not going to notice children’s things.
So that means whatever is most important to you, whatever is highest on your value—whatever your real purpose and inspiration is. You’re going to filter out your reality. You are going to see opportunities; you are going to make decisions quicker because you got more awareness.
And you’re going to stick to them with more perseverance in that area.
And you are going to see more synchronicities. So a lot of the secret is simply those things that occur spontaneously when you’re congruent with your highest values.
So if a person will set goals that are congruent and aligned, and chunk them down. And follow those actions, and prioritize it and delegate that. They have amazing synchronicities. And with their vision and their affirmation things become congruent.
And in that congruency, they create their reality.
So I’m a believer that it is not as much metaphysical as it is axiological. It is based on human value systems.
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